Trifilingitis

It's a disease and it's epidemic

There's no cure, only a buildup of immunity - if you're fortunate!

Triflingitis is a real disease, and men are especially vulnerable to it (not saying that some women don't get it)

How else do you explain why so many of them are just as WRONG as they can be?

It has nothing to do with whether or not they're right for someone

That comes out no matter what

It has to do with common courtesy and thoughtfulness

The idea of thinking BEFORE you act, and not APOLOGIZING after

There are just too many men who do these things for them all to be bona fide jerks

Things like:

1) Not calling when they say they will
2) Getting together with you and then breaking up with you within two weeks
3) "Talking" to you for a long time but refusing to ever get into a relationship with you
4) Spending time, energy, and sometimes money in efforts to get close to you, and when they finally do, walk away from you
5) Be there for you but push you away when it's time for you to be there for them

My uncle once said to me "No guy is going to stay around you if he doesn't like you." And I believe him. BUT I also believe we're dealing with LITTLE BOYS who start off thinking that they are dealing with LITTLE GIRLS, find out that they are actually getting in deep with GROWN WOMEN, realize that they need to get their lives together, but are very aware of the fact that we are exactly what they need. And so they string us along. Or they push us away. Or they do the roller coaster thing and go back and forth, and back and forth....
It has to be a disease. It has to be a malfunction in their brains that they don't catch on. That when you come across a good thing, you hold on to it because it's a good thing, and that if you try to make her wait until YOU'RE ready, she may not be around when you finally are.
I'll respect a man so much if he admits from jump that he has no idea what he's doing. At least he's giving me the respect of choosing whether or not I want to jump on this ride with him. Ladies, this is where we get mixed up. We fall. Head over heels. And then, when the Triflingitis starts to surface, we find it so hard to turn away and let his mess belong to him. It's okay. I don't judge you for it. All I ask is that you keep a clear head, and stay on your knees in prayer. Because "helping" a man out of his mess is a hard habit to break. And the truth of the matter is, you simply can't. They have to conquer that disease all on their own. And their motivation can't be you either. They have to decide for themselves what they want and what they need. Sometimes you make the cut, and sometimes you don't. But, whatever you do, do NOT try to cure someone else's Triflingitis! You'll only develop a case of your own, and it is WAY undetectable in the beginning.

So, ladies, just keep doing you. If you like a guy, and he's not quite ready, you need to decide then and there what you're going to put up with and take a good look at what the consequences will be in doing so. If it doesn't work out, please believe me; it's not you. If they claim to still like you or love you, believe them. It really isn't you. It's not even really them. It's that old incurable sickness:
T R I F L I N G I T I S!

P.S. While I personally advocate for marriage before sex, I am aware that many people are not willing to wait. But ladies PLEASE do NOT sleep with a man who won't even commit to being your boyfriend! Because trust me, if that's where you are, then you TOO have come down with Triflingitis! You're enabling him to continue his trifling ways while rewarding him, and you're doing yourself a disservice as well.