It's Not Me... It's You!
Don't you hate that line when somebody breaks up with you and they say some version of "it's not you, it's me"?
Well, I say, you are absolutely right!
You might be saying it to make me feel better, when secretly, you really believe it's me, but whether you realize it or not, you're speaking truth.
We need to take ownership of that knowledge.
Get this:
If you know that you are the best person that you can possibly be at that moment in time
And you are trying your hardest to stay true to yourself while respecting the other person
And making every effort possible to maintain that relationship
And it still doesn't work, you can believe that it's not you.
Don't waste your time on the "whys" and "hows" of the relationship falling apart
As tempting as that is to do
Don't focus on what you could have done differently and how you could have been more supportive of the other person
As hard as it is not to
Don't allow yourself to become the one who needs to change if you KNOW that while you are a flawed character, as is the rest of the human race, you have done everything you could do,
Please believe the other person when they say it's not you.
Look them right in the eye, and maybe not out loud cus it might hit a nerve, but you can definitely say in some form or fashion, "It's Not Me, It's You!"
Well, I say, you are absolutely right!
You might be saying it to make me feel better, when secretly, you really believe it's me, but whether you realize it or not, you're speaking truth.
We need to take ownership of that knowledge.
Get this:
If you know that you are the best person that you can possibly be at that moment in time
And you are trying your hardest to stay true to yourself while respecting the other person
And making every effort possible to maintain that relationship
And it still doesn't work, you can believe that it's not you.
Don't waste your time on the "whys" and "hows" of the relationship falling apart
As tempting as that is to do
Don't focus on what you could have done differently and how you could have been more supportive of the other person
As hard as it is not to
Don't allow yourself to become the one who needs to change if you KNOW that while you are a flawed character, as is the rest of the human race, you have done everything you could do,
Please believe the other person when they say it's not you.
Look them right in the eye, and maybe not out loud cus it might hit a nerve, but you can definitely say in some form or fashion, "It's Not Me, It's You!"
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