Women: Can We Handle the Truth?
"Women don't really want the truth. Y'all say y'all do, but you don't."
To every man who has ever uttered those words, please read.
To every woman who has ever heard those words, please read.
If you're talking about a REAL woman, one who has matured to the point in which she can look internally and accept that she is a flawed character and always has room for change, YES SHE DOES want the truth. The whole truth, and nothing but the truth!
Of course, there is always a way to say things respectfully and you should try to make it as clear as possible that you are making your claim in love and/or in the spirit of doing the right thing, but the bottom line is that it should always be the truth.
I was at a forum last night, and one of the girls asked why guys lie. A guy responded that he may lie to a girl because he knows he isn't where he needs to be in order to be with her, so he lies so that she'll talk to him. There were so many things wrong with that statement I barely know where to begin. But I'll try anyway. If you know that you are not where a particular girl needs you to be in order for you to have a healthy and functioning relationship, you need to just stop! First off, if you know you're not where you need to be, and you want her that badly, what's wrong with you working on yourself until you know you have something to offer? If you're not willing to do the work, then do both you and the girl a favor and don't waste that time lying and scheming, because true colors always bleed through. Now, if you're willing to work on yourself and be real about who you are, you'd be surprised how many people will give you a chance. But stop trying to look for shortcuts. You just bring about more drama and heartbreak all around.
The next thing I want to acknowledge is telling the truth in a relationship. Again. Unless you did something unforgivable, there is no reason you can't open your mouth and respectfully tell your woman what's real. I'm not going to lie; if you tell me something I don't want to hear, an argument may ensue. That doesn't mean that a real woman won't take a good look at herself and really consider what you had to say. No, she won't always agree with what you say, but if she's truly willing to look for ways to better herself, and loves you, she will always respect your opinion. Yes, you may fight, but that doesn't mean that any love will be lost.
There is nothing more insulting to me than a man who feels like he has to lie and dance around the truth because he thinks I won't be able to handle what he really thinks. I'm a big girl. More than that, I'm a grown woman, and if I was bad enough to ask, then I need to be strong enough to hear the answer and respect it. Men have a tendency to blame women for overdramatizing situations and making things more complicated than they are. I feel that the complications come when men THINK that a woman is going to complicate something and make it worse than it had to be. Tell the truth. It really will set you free. And if she's that insecure that she needs you to lie to her, then you know you need to be FREE from HER.
That is all.
To every man who has ever uttered those words, please read.
To every woman who has ever heard those words, please read.
If you're talking about a REAL woman, one who has matured to the point in which she can look internally and accept that she is a flawed character and always has room for change, YES SHE DOES want the truth. The whole truth, and nothing but the truth!
Of course, there is always a way to say things respectfully and you should try to make it as clear as possible that you are making your claim in love and/or in the spirit of doing the right thing, but the bottom line is that it should always be the truth.
I was at a forum last night, and one of the girls asked why guys lie. A guy responded that he may lie to a girl because he knows he isn't where he needs to be in order to be with her, so he lies so that she'll talk to him. There were so many things wrong with that statement I barely know where to begin. But I'll try anyway. If you know that you are not where a particular girl needs you to be in order for you to have a healthy and functioning relationship, you need to just stop! First off, if you know you're not where you need to be, and you want her that badly, what's wrong with you working on yourself until you know you have something to offer? If you're not willing to do the work, then do both you and the girl a favor and don't waste that time lying and scheming, because true colors always bleed through. Now, if you're willing to work on yourself and be real about who you are, you'd be surprised how many people will give you a chance. But stop trying to look for shortcuts. You just bring about more drama and heartbreak all around.
The next thing I want to acknowledge is telling the truth in a relationship. Again. Unless you did something unforgivable, there is no reason you can't open your mouth and respectfully tell your woman what's real. I'm not going to lie; if you tell me something I don't want to hear, an argument may ensue. That doesn't mean that a real woman won't take a good look at herself and really consider what you had to say. No, she won't always agree with what you say, but if she's truly willing to look for ways to better herself, and loves you, she will always respect your opinion. Yes, you may fight, but that doesn't mean that any love will be lost.
There is nothing more insulting to me than a man who feels like he has to lie and dance around the truth because he thinks I won't be able to handle what he really thinks. I'm a big girl. More than that, I'm a grown woman, and if I was bad enough to ask, then I need to be strong enough to hear the answer and respect it. Men have a tendency to blame women for overdramatizing situations and making things more complicated than they are. I feel that the complications come when men THINK that a woman is going to complicate something and make it worse than it had to be. Tell the truth. It really will set you free. And if she's that insecure that she needs you to lie to her, then you know you need to be FREE from HER.
That is all.
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