August Writing Challenge - Day 11 - Loyalty

When I think of loyalty, I automatically think of - and I'm ashamed to admit this - Basketball Wives! If any of you followed the latest season, you know about Jen and Evelyn's friendship falling apart, hence all the discussions about loyalty. In the midst of watching this train wreck of a show (I know what it is, but I can't help myself), I constantly found myself asking the screen what loyalty had to do with have of the issues within that friendship. Apparently, these women felt loyalty meant agreeing with one another on every point, and if they did disagree, they were not to vocalize this or they were deemed to be disloyal. Basically, Jen felt that Evelyn was going to get hurt by marrying another athlete, especially when she had been so hurt by her previous relationship that involved an athlete. Evelyn was upset that Jen shared this opinion with the public (hello, you're on TV!), and thus dissolved their friendship. In fact, she felt that Jen was so disloyal that it was only right for her to tell ALL of Jen's secrets on national television. My next blog post will be all the reasons why I am ashamed to admit I watch this show. But I digress....

My thing is, if I'm a true friend, I'll give you my honest opinion whether you like it or not, because it's coming from a place of concern and not hate. I guess if you're used to having friends that secretly don't want the best for you, you would be right to worry about why I'm not immediately backing you up. The thing is, as a friend, I don't have to support every decision that you make. I have to support YOU. That means that if I don't agree and you do something anyway, I don't have to help you get into trouble, but I'll definitely be there to help you get out (if it comes to that). I was never the person to follow my friends into fistfights or never-ending rivalries. But when they needed a shoulder to lean or cry on, or an objective viewpoint (including telling them they were wrong), I was there. A lot of their "cosigners" disappeared when things came to a head, however. I don't let people talk about my friends behind their backs, and I make it clear that my friends will remain my friends no matter who likes or doesn't like them. So I ask you, who's really more loyal?

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